what is cheating??

After watching last weeks lectures about what constitutes sex and how would you feel if your partner was having phone sex or some other form of interactive sex and whether or not that would be cheating, I began to think about how I would feel if something like this was happening in my relationship.  I think if I found out that my boyfriend was having phone sex with someone behind my back I would be upset.  I agree with what the one girl said during the lecture, if it something that you feel the need to hide, it probably is wrong. I would feel like even though there is no physical contact, I would feel like he cheated on me.  When you are in a committed relationship I believe that anything sexual is something that should only be shared between the two of us.  That is one of the reasons why you become involved in a committed relationship, to have that amount of intimacy between the two of you.  I think it would be the fact that the other person is able to respond to his actions or what he says is what makes it so different form porn.  At least when someone is watching porn that has been recorded, it is a one way communication.  The television or computer has no response to the person’s actions; it is only the person who has a response.  If someone is having phone sex or cyber sex there is that interaction on both ends.  Both people are able to respond and communicate what exactly that it is that they want the other to do, in other words, there is some sort of intimacy.  I don’t know if I am just old fashioned or up with the times with things of this nature, but what I do know is that if this was happening to me, I would feel hurt and cheated on. 

April 5, 2006. Uncategorized.